Being a Master in a D/s BDSM relationship comes with it's share of responsibilities and expectations. When you claim another and place your collar on them you are signifying your commitment towards guiding another soul through life. This commitment does not begin and end with what societies idea of the lifestyle is or represents. In fact being a master means different things to different Doms. For me it means the following.
It means I've committed myself to being a protector and not just of what some perceive as property. For me it means protecting someone from not only the day to day agitations but from themselves as well. To protect another means to teach to guide and yes if necessary to punish. But it also involves trust. My slave by choosing me as her master is showing not only devotion and love, but complete and total trust. This trust is placed in my hands in the form of her entire being. She trusts that I will be there during any strife that comes her way and to share in every joy as well.
It means I have vowed to guide her in the ways that I expect her to be through allowing her to be totally true to her nature. Her expectations of me consist of insuring that wrong choices are not made and conflicting emotions that would stagnate the thought process are separated and labeled for what they are, distractions. It is that muddled mind that I'm am committed to clear.
It means that I will treat her as I would a rose in that I will administer the proper care and encourage her to blossom into the beautiful garden that is desired. It means I have accepted the responsibility in making sure that she is healthy and happy by giving her the dominance she desires. It means I will weed out all the bad habits that in the past have led to negative and irretrievable consequences. From the moment a decision to enter this is made I committed to shaping her into the woman she desires to be.
It means control. Control of not only her but of the shared destiny we both crave. To take control of another's being brings strength to me in the form of an example. It causes me to reevaluate my own life and my own choices and to transfer those to her so that she may benefit from them. It means I must now lead by example. And never falter in any endeavor that is undertaken. To gain control like this brings power to me. The kind of power needed to be strong in my convictions and grants me the freedom to truly be who I am through all of this it is she who has given me that gift.
Finally, it means devotion and love not just any Ole love, but the kind of love that is born in knowing I am depended upon to provide a safe haven for which solace can be found. It means my love is so strong that through the good and the bad I will still be there to to sooth the fears and encourage the successes. It means I'm honest in my criticism not to degrade but to nurture. It means my love will never worry again.
For much of society the only glimpse that is seen is that in which the mass media gives to society to view, which is often negative and totally inaccurate. Through my commitment to my slave I am vowing to provide all that she requires. Here's the the part that society often overlooks or just plain old don't get it. I do these things in order to allow happiness to come into the life of someone who desperately wishes to only be themselves. It allows them to become the person they want to be and not the person that society demands them to be. In other words I offer freedom from the bonds of societal expectations and in its place I give the strength to be true to herself.
In this world in which we live in we are expected to conform to molds of what society deems as right. But through the bond and relationship that develops through this commitment I am able to give her something that the world at large cannot. What I give are the gifts of choice, freedom, and self awareness that is needed in order for her to be who she truly is. When I became a master I accepted a magnitude of responsibilities. These responsibilities give me purpose, they give me peace, They grant me my own escape from the chains society uses to make us conform. But what being a master ultimately gives me is the one thing that none can give me and that is the right to claim my own life back.
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